Theory, Theory, Theory? What is your Theory?
By Zero on August 28, 2011Has anyone of you experience or wondered why when in a crowded area and people know your gay is they seem to be turn off personally, shutting all the chances or opportunity to befriend them, especially on women? Why straight women seem to easily accept more the gay men and not the gay women? What?s the difference?
Before, when I think I?m still normal until I turned 20 that I realize I am not, I experience this. In the presence of a girl (straight), I feel at ease, but when I know that she?s gay, I feel bothered and guarded. While in a boy?s presence, I feel not at ease but guarded, but when I know he?s gay, I feel at ease and intrigued. Why is that? So, I wondered the difference from not-knowing and knowing.
And my theory is this:
1. ?????????? In a straight (girl) subconscious, between the man and woman connection, the only difference is the guy only has a potential tendency to form or develop a romantic/intimate relationship to them which is the only recognize by their subconscious, thus make them to cope-up when a man court or just talk to a woman and be at ease. But if shift to woman it is not the same, ?the potential tendency to form a romantic relationship? that a straight girl gets from a man is turned to be a woman, is not recognized by the subconscious, thus they don?t know how to cope that making them feel uneasy. Even by just talking or have a conversation with a lesbian is hard for them, even though they know the lesbian doesn?t like them, because their subconscious tells them ?she like you in a romantic way?, which is not at all the case.
2. ?????????? There are people who know things and who are able to know but choose or pretend not to know what they know, because for one thing, things are easier for them that way. The point here is, it is based on the capacity of one?s person to cope on things around them.
3. ?????????? Back in 9th grade, there is this question in a conversation I overheard between two friends that I will never forget, the boy ask ?why does women use a sanitary napkin?? I kind of agree to the phrase ?boy?s are clueless? on that. I mean between women this is considered a dumb question, right? My point here is there are things between women that are common and wasn?t spoken of, yet you know, same with men. This factors why some straight women has an easy way coping or accepting more the gay men than gay women, is because with regards to no. 1, the straight (girl) is emotionally is liked a naked person before a lesbian (women reads well emotions than men), unlike in the presence of a man, the straight (girl) can hide its true feelings well, while doing the same with a woman is harder.
Source: http://www.thelesbianquestion.com/2011/08/28/theory-theory-theory-what-is-your-theory/
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