It is never easy dealing with yourself, especially if you are the type who doesn?t have any charisma for oneself, who doesn?t have any love for yourself, and who doesn?t even care for yourself, in short someone who has a very low sefl-esteem. I am the type of person who knows how it feels being someone who lacks self-confidence, so let me now share to you some good ways to boost your self-esteem. These are simple ways and can be easily attained if done with total motivation and encouragement.
First thing to do:
Do not tell the whole world bad things about yourself
This usually happens when someone asks you something that you could really do but refuses to because either don?t want to do it, or you don?t trust yourself that you can do it. Lets take the classroom setting; your teacher asks you to recite a certain literature. She tasked you to do it because she believes that you can do it. But here you are, refusing because you don?t want to try. You are afraid of what the people might think about your performance. You are afraid that people might laugh at you, might criticize you and so on and so forth.
Don?t dwell on things like that. Try to trust yourself, when a teacher asks you to do something in front of the class, he doesn?t want to get you embarrassed, he only wants you to learn, grow up and train you to be able to face the people when you finish studying. One more things, he trusts you a lot that?s why he asked you to do such thing. Instead of staying in the corner, train yourself, as much as possible, stand up. Don?t fear anybody or anything, everybody makes mistake, and you could surely learn from it.
Second thing to do:
Face people?s words about you
An individual gets fed up by what other may say about him or her, criticisms, bad words, bullies, false judgment and the like. This could greatly influence or affect one?s personality. These things would gradually absorb in one?s mind and more likely become the reason why a person has this low self-esteem.
Instead of thinking of what the people had talked about you, or have told in front of you, why not try to stop for a while and try to think of ?Who are these people to talk things like that about me?? they are not perfect either. So don?t dwell too much on what they are talking about you. Focus on what you have to do to simply give the people good impression about you, and the rest is not your problem anymore. Insecurity could have eaten them all alive.
Third thing to do:
Balance everything you receive
Not all people encounter too much self-esteem that they fail to show up almost perfectly in public. There are those who don?t do anything but still gains good compliments from others. When people tell you that you are goo, intellectual, smart, good looking, charismatic, attractive and the like, do not look up too high, make the people think that what they have seen in you won?t change for the worse.
On the other side of the story, do not think too much on the criticisms or bad things people had told about you while trying to forget the good things others had seen on you. It?s wrong move. This would destroy the continuous growth of your self-esteem.
Fourth thing to do:
Do not see things the extreme way
We usually see things as 100% beautiful and 100% ugly. Let us not stay in this kind of idea. This would lead to a total downfall. Let us take this situation as a perfect mirror reflection of this type of attitude; you are doing a project together with your classmate. Another classmate passes by and noticed the 2 of you working together. That passer-by classmate looks at your partner?s work and says, ?wow! This is perfect, 100% perfect!? suddenly you felt bad because the 2 of you are working on a same thing, same theme, same work to sum up. Since you weren?t able to receive that 100% thingy, you felt bad and lost motivation in doing your work. Now it ended up like a trash because you failed to exert effort on it.
Why don?t you try to take that as a challenge? If your work wasn?t noticed, then challenge yourself, let yourself know that you lack some things and there are still lots of rooms for improvement. You won?t improve if you won?t try it a thousand times.
Next thing to do is to try again. Do the same things but try to look at your work. What is lacking? What part needs improvement? How will I improve and develop this thing? Can I innovate this for better result?
Take these questions and I?ll assure you, you?ll have the greatest result after trying to do things again for the better. And who knows? Your classmate might pass again and give you a 100% positive comment on your work.
And the last thing to do is:
Take good care of yourself in every way you can
Criticisms, bullies, negative feedbacks could cause a great disturbance on your personality. This would make you forget about yourself. This would make you look older, uglier and worse, would destroy your well-being. Do not continue doing this, I mean do not let negative chi over-power your positive chi in life.
You are born in this world equipped with special features and special skills. Try to go out and discover them all. Do not hide in your closet because this would do nothing in your life. Visit any salon, get a haircut, clean your nails, take the manicure and pedicure services. After doing so, forget the world and shop for yourself. if you?d love to, buy the most expensive clothes to pamper yourself. This could lessen the burden if you try to reward yourself with some luxurious things. It?s not yet the end, go on and enrol yourself on a gym or prepare a fitness program at home. Think of things that would make you look fit. Look at the best that you can be.
Finally, go home, find a place where you can inhale fresh air and take some time to relax and take the stress away from your mind and soul.
This helps a lot.
Go on now! Do everything as I say, and let me know the progress.
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Source: http://selfesteem-activities.com/boosting-self-esteem-2/
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